The pair often go hand-in-hand

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When an unexpected change happens, you often greet it with denial.

No, this isn’t happening. Not to me. Especially not right now.

Denial usually appears when you feel threatened. It coats the situation like a wool glove that makes your palms uncomfortably sweaty. You try to justify the feeling, that flip in your stomach that makes you squirm in your seat. The discomfort becomes familiar to you.

It’s okay to not know what is happening.

You cannot expect to understand everything that goes on in your life. What is outside of your circle of control will always find a way to drive you crazy if you let it…


Am I only going to live until I’m 60?

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My dad only lived until 61, his brother until 50-something. My grandparents, all of them, lived until they were in their 60s. If we are going off of patterns, then this is my midlife crisis. Maybe this is just a new source of blame for my never-ending battle with my own mind.

I think about my mortality a lot, but not in an I-want-to-be-gone way. I just wonder what is in store for me and when it is coming.

Mental health struggles are not only for a certain age group or life stage. They can come on strong while you…


I was raped on this day

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Trigger warning: rape

I have never been one to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day. In America, it was adopted as a day solely dedicated to getting wasted. I never understood the appeal, especially as a teenager without a fake ID. Still, people in my life had countless parties where you were meant to dress in green and celebrate the act of being drunk.

The history of St. Patrick’s Day is often lost in translation when celebrated in the States, but this isn’t the only reason why I choose not to partake. On March 17, 2011, I was raped by my best…


But that can be so boring

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My mom has told me on more than one occasion that there is no point in telling me what to do because I do what I want. To some extent, this is probably true. I was a good kid growing up, but I had a defiant-as-hell attitude. When I put my mind to something, it has to be done.

This has worked out as both a blessing and a curse for me as I grew into adulthood.

I’m a personal narrative writer at heart, but I have dabbled in the bullshit How To articles. I only refer to them as…


Our Story

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We are all going through a collective trauma right now, every single person in the world. In my lifetime, I have never known such a structural change in the way that we live our daily lives. The closest thing that I can remember is 9/11. Though I was not directly impacted, I do remember things changing after that September day.

I learned what terrorism was as I ate a bagel and watched the plane hit the second tower. I was 10-years-old, and I couldn’t help but wonder why the pilot would accidentally do that. …


A daily dose of mental health

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I write self-help books for a living—how to live stress-free, how to be the most productive version of yourself, how to become wealthy, how to get great sleep, and so on. I think the most ironic part about my job is that I am probably every bad example that I use in my books.

I get paid to help other people, and then I pay my therapist to help me. Sure, I know that I do a lot of work on my own to get my mental health in check. I make to-do lists, stay busy, seek creative outlets, and…

Kristen Nadel

Writer and author • Interested in mindfulness and spirituality • Fascinated by interpersonal connections • 🌈LGBTQ+ kristennadelauthor@hotmail.com

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