Denial Tried to Marry Change
When an unexpected change happens, you often greet it with denial.
No, this isn’t happening. Not to me. Especially not right now.
Denial usually appears when you feel threatened. It coats the situation like a wool glove that makes your palms uncomfortably sweaty. You try to justify the feeling, that flip in your stomach that makes you squirm in your seat. The discomfort becomes familiar to you.
It’s okay to not know what is happening.
You cannot expect to understand everything that goes on in your life. What is outside of your circle of control will always find a way to drive you crazy if you let it. That’s the trick—you have to learn how to not let it. Teach yourself that it is okay to throw your hands up sometimes, to have no idea what might happen or what is currently happening. Dig deep, thinking about the way that this prompts you to respond.
It is easy to find out who you are based on what you worry about. Try to find the roots of these worries, figuring out where the seed was planted and how you can stop watering it. Change becomes a lot less scary when you are in control of it. This is possible with enough practice and kind self-talk.
You are making more progress than you think.
Instead of worrying about doing enough right now, think about how much you have done in one month. Is this not doing the trick for you? Think about how much you have done in one year. Where you were then compared to where you stand now is different, guaranteed. Even if you are doing the same things in the same place, you likely have a newfound mindset.
The world is ever-changing, and you are an adaptable creature. The lessons you encounter teach you how to become more flexible to the woes that haunt you. Eventually, these troubles will start to fade away. This is what they mean when they say that time heals all. While it does not actually make your worries disappear, it leaves you with room to grow.